okay yeah the server is out of whack
# server
$ timedatectl
Local time: Tue 2026-06-02 01:05:15 CEST
Universal time: Mon 2026-06-01 23:05:15 UTC
RTC time: Mon 2026-06-01 23:09:40
Time zone: Europe/Berlin (CEST, +0200)
System clock synchronized: no
NTP service: n/a
RTC in local TZ: no

# laptop:
$ timedatectl
Local time: Tue 2026-06-02 00:09:54 BST
Universal time: Mon 2026-06-01 23:09:54 UTC
RTC time: Mon 2026-06-01 23:09:54
Time zone: Europe/London (BST, +0100)
System clock synchronized: yes
NTP service: active
RTC in local TZ: no

even with timezones that's 4 minutes behind. I think I should fix this but how/is it safe to do so without restarting